You Need No Ones Permission But Your Own

I’m going to be honest with you, I know what its like to look in the mirror and hate the person looking back at me. Honest to god hate! I know what it feels like to loathe myself both physically and spiritually and to want to crawl under my covers and cease to be. Full stop.


But you know what, it doesn’t have to be like this. You don’t have to feel like this any longer, or ever again. There is one simple thing that you can do right now. It’s the one thing that I have found holds people back from loving themselves fully, truly, and deeply. The one thing you can do for yourself right now to love yourself, is to give yourself permission to do so!


So many of us wait for permission from forces outside ourselves before we allow ourselves to start loving ourselves (wow I used the word ‘ourselves a lot just then). We wait for someone else or something else to validate our worth. But here’s the truth, and this is something I know you already know deep down; you will never find validation outside yourself.


You need to believe that you are beautiful.

You need to believe that you are talented.

You need to believe that you are worthy.

You need to believe that you are loveable.

You need to believe that you are the fucking fantastic creature that I know you are!


All of us, myself included, never see ourselves as others see us. We are always blinded by our imperfections, our tiny flaws.

- You don’t like your body because you don’t look like a model, yet someone thinks you’re a sexy beast (if you’re single, someone has seen you as a sexy beast and someone will again!). 

- You don’t think you’re talented because you didn’t receive the praise that you craved.

- You don’t think you’ve got any (or many) friends because no one liked your Facebook post.

Well do you want to feel like a sexy beast? Do you want to feel talented? Do you want to feel like the world loves you and people adore you? Do you want to feel like you’re standing on top of a mountain, arms high and wide screaming with joy at the top of your lungs as you dance about like a leprechaun? You can only have this by giving yourself permission. No one else will give it to you.


But just incase you’ve got this far and you still don’t think you can give yourself permission, I’ll help you out – I give you permission.


There. Now you have it.

I give you permission to love yourself.

I give you permission to look in the mirror and think “damn I’m gorgeous”.

I give you permission to accept your brilliance, to know that you are worthy of love, friendship and joy.

I give you permission to be happy and love your life (even if it isn’t perfect).

I give you permission to live your truth my friend - to live and love yourself fully, madly and deeply.  


Make the promise to yourself today to no longer look for validation outside yourself. Make the decision to love yourself first and foremost. Accept that the only way to feel love for yourself will come from your own sense of self worth.


You can start slow by looking in the mirror and thinking, “I’m not to bad.” And slowly grow to “I’m fucking brilliant baby! Woohoo!” But wherever you are on your journey to self-love, take forward, fabulous, courageous steps.


You are the master of your life. You have the control of what goes on in your mind. No one can make you feel less than the beautiful, unique, amazing person that you are unless you let them. So don’t let them.


Start loving and accepting yourself today. Even the smallest progress towards fabulous self-love will change your life for the better.